Proverbs 5 (Listen)

5:1   My son, be attentive to my wisdom;
    incline your ear to my understanding,
  that you may keep discretion,
    and your lips may guard knowledge.
  For the lips of a forbidden woman drip honey,
    and her speech is smoother than oil,
  but in the end she is bitter as wormwood,
    sharp as a two-edged sword.
  Her feet go down to death;
    her steps follow the path to Sheol;
  she does not ponder the path of life;
    her ways wander, and she does not know it.
  And now, O sons, listen to me,
    and do not depart from the words of my mouth.
  Keep your way far from her,
    and do not go near the door of her house,
  lest you give your honor to others
    and your years to the merciless,
10   lest strangers take their fill of your strength,
    and your labors go to the house of a foreigner,
11   and at the end of your life you groan,
    when your flesh and body are consumed,
12   and you say, “How I hated discipline,
    and my heart despised reproof!
13   I did not listen to the voice of my teachers
    or incline my ear to my instructors.
14   I am at the brink of utter ruin
    in the assembled congregation.”
15   Drink water from your own cistern,
    flowing water from your own well.
16   Should your springs be scattered abroad,
    streams of water in the streets?
17   Let them be for yourself alone,
    and not for strangers with you.
18   Let your fountain be blessed,
    and rejoice in the wife of your youth,
19     a lovely deer, a graceful doe.
  Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight;
    be intoxicated always in her love.
20   Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman
    and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?
21   For a man’s ways are before the eyes of the LORD,
    and he ponders all his paths.
22   The iniquities of the wicked ensnare him,
    and he is held fast in the cords of his sin.
23   He dies for lack of discipline,
    and because of his great folly he is led astray.


Drink water from your own cistern, water flowing from your own well. Let your fountain be blessed, and take pleasure in the wife of your youth. A loving deer, a graceful doe… (Proverbs 5:15, 18 & 19a CSB). 

This is a warning from Solomon to his sons about the virtues and plan for Christian marriages. It’s also a warning to all Christians (both male and female) against the evils and trappings of adultery. The point is made that God has provided a place for a man to satisfy his sexual needs — in marriage, with the wife of his youth. It is easy to think that real sexual satisfaction can be found outside of marriage, but this is an illusion and a deception of our society. God’s best for humanity is for a man to marry a wife and for him to rejoice with her for the rest of his days. When tempted to move to other situations to be satisfied, it’s best to remember that God has the best plan for our lives.

Pray it: Lord, there are constant temptations to fulfill my sexual desires outside of marriage. Help me and those around me, whether married or not, to stay firm in your truth and uphold the sacredness of the marriage covenant. Turn my eyes and heart away from anything that tries to pull me away from that reality. Amen.

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